Another One Bites Dust!

 

I told you in an earlier post that I was supposed to be having a date tonight, well actually I wasn’t feeling too good, I’d had a mad day (and thinking back, I think I may have been a bit dehydrated) and I actually contemplated contacting him and postponing but thought, “Nope, come on, you can do it!”

At about 6.25 pm (we were due to meet at 7.30 pm) I got a text from him saying that he would be leaving in about 45 minutes.  Now, I did think to myself, “There’s no way he’s going to get from where he lives to where we are supposed to be meeting in 20 minutes” but just put it down to the fact that he may have been travelling from somewhere else.

So at about 7.10, I left the house to travel the 10 minutes to where we were meeting (you know the issue I have with lateness and no matter how hard I try – and sometimes I do try – I can never arrive anywhere less than 10 minutes BEFORE I need to be there) and arrived at 7.20 pm.  At 7.30 pm, I get a text from him saying, “I’m gonna be 10 minutes late” ... I could have told him that when he texted me at 6.25 pm. 

Now let’s face it, I would imagine that you know when you’re going to be late so why would you text someone right at the time you were supposed to meet and tell them you’re going to be late?  Why not tell them/text them earlier?  Don’t get that one ... that’s disrespectful that is.

Now, if you remember Mr Grey from last week who was 20 minutes late, after that I actually vowed not to wait longer than 10 minutes for any date again.  I know I’ve said it before but it’s just the absolutely height of rudeness as far as I’m concerned ... what makes people think they’re so important that they expect me to wait for them.  It’s totally appalling!  I’m NEVER late no matter how far I’m travelling or what I’m doing ... I AM NEVER LATE! (Phew ... rant over ... I know I have an issue with this by the way, it hasn’t escaped my notice!).

Anyway, I waited until 7.45 pm and he still hadn’t arrived, so this time, rather than wait like I did for Mr Grey, I left.  Another 10 minutes later, so that’s a total of 25 minutes after the time we were supposed to meet (oh and by the way, it was him that set the time for the date, not me) and a full 35 minutes after I’d initially arrived at the venue, I got a text from him saying, “Where are you?”  Well, I was nearly home!

I didn’t reply because I was driving and five minutes after that, I got the most disgusting text I’ve ever received (well, that I can remember anyway) calling me all the names under the sun and pointing out, amongst other things, that I was ‘despicable’ for not waiting for him ... I’ve never been called despicable before!

Was I harsh not waiting?  Hmmmm maybe but I have to think that if I was really keen on this guy, I would have waited and there was a big part of me that really wasn’t feeling up to it, so maybe it goes back to listening to your gut and when you get the feeling that you don’t want to go through with something ... DON'T GO THROUGH WITH IT!  If I’d listed to my gut then I would have saved myself having to go out on a crappy night when I wasn’t feeling too good and receiving a sh*t load of abuse!

I’ve got to be honest, I know you guys love to hear about my online dating escapades (and that really is my main driver for doing it) but think I may have to  bow out of it again for a while.  I can only ever do it for a few weeks at a time before I get completely disillusioned with it, so it may be time to give it a rest again for a bit.  I’ve also had a couple of really nasty mails from a couple of idiots too (what I’ve done to provoke them, I have no idea) which starts to take the shine off things, so I’ll give it over the weekend and review on Monday.

Ho hum ... at least I’ve got two fab films to look forward to this weekend, “Sinister” and “Taken 2”, they’ll perk me up.  Right lovelies, enjoy your Friday and I’ll catch you soon.  Be fabulous.

Lots of love

Jx

'Looper' Review

Well this is going to be quite a short post as I’m really busy, but I just wanted to tell you about a film that I saw yesterday that I thought was brilliant ... Looper.

It’s a kind of Sci-fi based on time travel, but unlike most of the Sci-fi films I’ve seen this year (in particular I’m thinking of Dredd and Total Recall) this film actually had a brilliant story to it.  It was quite gory in places but extremely engaging.

So what's it about?  Well, time travel will be invented in the future but will be illegal and only available on the black market.  When the mob wants to get rid of someone, they will send their target 30 years into the past where a ‘looper’ (an assassin) is waiting to kill them.  Joe (played by Joseph Gordon-Levitt!!!  You'll know his face even if you don't know his name) is getting rich as a looper until one day, the mob decides to close the loop sending his future self back to be assassinated by his younger self.

I hav to be honest, it really was a rather impressive film.  There were no ridiculous car chases for the sake of it and no over use of flash CGI ... just a really good story.  Bruce Willis brilliantly plays future Joe (and I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, he’s aging really well and I still think he’s pretty hot – unlike his counterparts, Arnie and Stallone), younger Joe is played not so brilliantly (I think the prosthetic nose they’ve used to try and make him look more like Bruce is a bit distracting ... Oh and his eyebrows are far too dark!). 

Emily Blunt is in it too and her American accent is surprisingly good – I’m not going to tell you about her role because I really don’t want to spoil anything.  I saw her on Jonathan Ross (a UK chat show for my overseas readers) at the weekend and she said that she had a voice coach to make sure that she got the accent right.  Looks like it paid off. 

Right, without further ado, here’s the trailer...

 

Go and see it, you won't regret it!

I’ve just noticed that there are two films out this Friday that I’m looking forward to, Sinister (I put a clip of it in my last ‘review’ post) and Taken 2.  I LOVE Liam Neeson and the first Taken film was amazing, so that should be good.

On the dating front, I have a date tomorrow and another lined up for the weekend, so I’ll keep you informed.  Until then, be fabulous!

Lots of love

Jx

On-line Dating Update

OK, dating update ... well, not much to report really.  I haven’t had any more dates and was meant to be talking to 3 different blokes over the weekend that seemed to disappear into thin air!  I don’t really get it, I have to be honest.

There was one who looked really nice, reasonably affluent, interesting profile/pictures and I was actually quite looking forward to speaking to him.  He emailed me on Sunday morning and said, “When are you free to talk” (so by that, I took it that he actually wanted to speak to me ... well I think anyone would glean that from the fact that he actually used the word ‘talk’!).  So I replied telling him that I was with my dad in the afternoon but would be free about 6.00 pm.

Around 5.00 pm I logged on to the dating site expecting to see an email from him either asking me for my phone number or giving me his.  As soon as I got to the ‘home’ page, one of those pop up chat boxes appeared on the screen telling me that this guy wanted to ‘chat’.  Now, I HATE that chat facility.  What are we, teenagers?  What’s wrong with picking up the phone and talking to someone?  I want a man not a bloody kid.

I mailed him and said, “Sorry, I don’t do 'chat', I thought we were going to actually speak to each other” Really, is that too much to ask?  If you met someone in a bar, what would you do?  Shove your email address at them and say, “Let’s chat ... over email?”  Or throw your number at them and say, “Let’s chat over MSN?”  NO!!!  No you wouldn’t ... you’d physically speak to them.

His reply, “You don’t like ‘chat’ then.  Why is that?”

My reply, “Because we aren’t 12 and I’d rather have an adult conversation with someone”

His reply, “Well it’s easier to interview someone and back out if you don’t like them over chat”

OMG ... I had to really have a word with myself as I was constructing the response ... it could have actually ended up being another that got me banned from the site!  Instead, I think I was really restrained and adult about it and said, “This isn’t going to work for me, Good Luck” He replied, “Good Luck” and that was that!

I have found that the guys who seemingly have money/are successful seem to have the biggest chips on their shoulders/are incredibly arrogant/think they can mess you around the most ... probably because most women will put up with that so the men can get away with it.  Anyway, that was that.

I’ve also had another email from the guy who told me that I need to wear more sunscreen.  In his second email wrote, “Hello again, about your picture ... it was nice but I think you must have had it taken at the beginning of your holiday before your skin was used to the sun.  Anyway, have a look at my profile and see what you think” ... I didn’t need to do that ... DELETE!!!  Bloody cheek, not only did he insult me once, but he insulted me again!  I probably could have accepted an apology, but he just dug the hole deeper.  Weird ... some of these guys are just downright weird.

I’m still emailing a few guys (it’s weird how some of them sometimes just drop of the radar, one minute they’re asking to chat with you, the next minute they disappear!), I’m also still sticking to my rule that if they don’t ask to speak to you (properly, on the phone) within 4 email exchanges then I bin them off as a bad job. 

Oh, I nearly forgot, I do have a date on Thursday ... I spoke to the guy on Sunday night and he seemed really nice, so we’ll see.  On second thoughts, I haven’t heard from him since then, so actually, it may not be going ahead after all!  Ho hum.

Oh and here’s a very small selection of the mails I’ve received over the last couple of days...

How r u sexy xx

hi how are u.x

Hello x

do you kiss as good as you look? hehe x

hi

Wowser x

x (That’s the shortest mail I’ve received yet ... that took a lot of effort didn’t it?!)

Right lovelies, that’s it for now ... more dating tales soon.  Until then, be fabulous.

Lots of love

Jx

Killing Them Softly – The Imposter – The Campaign

Three more reviews for you ... well, two and a half really.  I saw ‘Killing Them Softly on Saturday afternoon.  It was a pretty stella cast with Brad Pitt (yum, or well, not really yum in this – he plays a sleazy hit may ... acted very well though it has to be said!), Ray Liotta (he hasn’t aged well ... very craggy looking!  I loved him in Goodfellas, that was one of my favourite films back in the day) and James Gandolfini (him off the Sopranos – used to love that series).

The story, two guys who think they’re smart rob a Mob protected card game causing the local criminal economy to collapse.  The film then follows their stories as a mob hit man tracks them down.  I’m not sure if I loved it ... it was good ... just a bit boring in places (very gory shootings too ... ewwwwww).  Here’s the trailer...
 

Then we have ‘The Imposter’.  I watched it straight after Killing Them Softly, not because I particularly wanted to see it but because I was bored and wasn’t ready to go home.  I should have been a bit dubious about it because I hadn’t seen any trailers for it ... now I know why.  It was so boring that I fell asleep on and off for about an hour of it – the bits I did see where astonishingly poor!

So, the story (I had to look on Flixster for some of this) ... The imposter is a chilling factual thriller (I didn’t see anything chilling or thrilling about it), that chronicles the story of a 13 year old boy who disappears without a trace from San Antonio in 1994.  Three years later a boy appears claiming to be the one that disappeared (although quite why anyone believed it is beyond me because the original kid was blonde/blue eyed whilst this person spoke with a Mexican accent and had dark hair/dark eyes ... go figure!).  The film consisted of a series of interviews with the family and the imposter.

In summary, it was boring as hell and sucked to high heaven ... to be avoided at all costs.  I’m not even going to post a trailer because I don’t want you see it (I hate to think of anyone losing their money) and think it may be good and want to see it!  I actually walked out which hasn’t happened since I stumbled upon a slasher movie a few years ago (without realising it was a slasher movie!).

Well yesterday, I said that I’d review The Campaign with Will Farrell.  I’ve got to be honest, sometimes I’m not that enamoured with Will Farrell, I think his films can be childish and cringe worthy, however, I quite liked this one.  I think that was mainly to do with the fantastic character played by Zach Galifianakis (the guy from the Hangover that causes all the problems).  His character alone is worth the entry price.

So, the story ... Long Term congressman (Farrell) is challenged by an unsophisticated, Marty Huggins (Zach) and backed by unscrupulous benefactors the race to win the election takes some unusual twists and turns.  It’s quite rude in places (which I think probably makes it funnier because you’re not always expecting it) but definitely worth a watch.  I actually laughed out loud quite a few times and that doesn’t happen in the cinema on my own very often!

Here’s the trailer, watch out for Zach’s walk, it’s actually quite hilarious!

 

There are lots of good movies coming up.  You know how I love a good psychological horror, well here’s one that I really want to see.  It’s called ‘Sinister’ and the trailer looks amazing!

 

Right lovelies, that's me for another day. I'll be back with more dating tales soon. Until then, be fabulous.

 

Lots of love

 

Jx

The House at the End of the Street/Resident Evil

Sorry lovelies, with all the dating excitement, I’d completely forgotten to give you a review of ‘The House at the End of the Street’ which I saw last weekend.  From the trailers, I thought it was a paranormal type horror but it really wasn’t.  It was more psychological horror (although the term horror is used very loosely). 

So what’s it about? Well, a divorced woman takes her teenage daughter to a new town in order to make a new start following her divorce.  However, they quickly find that the reason why they got their dream house so cheaply was to do with the house next door where years earlier, a child had killed both of her parents in the house.   The mother and daughter due soon discover that the son of the family still lives there and despite the mother’s reservations, her daughter strikes up a relationship with him.

It’s from there that it all goes horribly wrong (the son is a bit of a psycho).  I won’t say it was an awful film, it wasn’t.  There were some real surprises that I didn’t see coming (in fact I didn't see any of it coming if I'm honest).  It just wasn’t scary enough (I can't believe I'm saying that!), so ended up being a bit bland.  It also didn’t help that I was expecting a totally different film from what was portrayed in the trailers.  It’s still worth a watch though, but there are definitely better films out there at the moment.  Here’s the trailer...

 

 

 

The next film I saw that I’ve been looking forward to seeing for ages is Resident Evil: Retribution.  I LOVE zombie films (in fact I’m quite obsessed with anything Zombie or Vampire) and ever since I heard this was coming out, I’ve been excited about seeing it.  I loved all the others and couldn’t pick my favourite if you asked me.

Well, I have to say I was disappointed.  Again (as seems to be the case with so many films these days) the story was pretty rubbish, but the effects were amazeballs.  The biggest disappointing factor was the total lack of Zombies!  How can that be in a Zombie film?  I feel cheated!

So what was the film about, well I’ve got to be honest, I got a bit confused (doesn’t take much sometimes) I think I’ve completely lost the plot with the whole Resident Evil storyline if I’m honest but it was more about Alice (Milla Jovovich – who is totally amazing) delving deeper into the Umbrella Corporation ... but I got a bit lost, so I’m not going to try and sum it up more than to say that they are tonnes of fight scenes (some of which go on far too long) and too little Zombie action (I’m not counting a humongous  weirdy hybrid type creature thing that turns up relentlessly throughout the film).

In summary, not my favourite Resident Evil film and there are far better films out there to watch at the moment.  Anyway, here’s the trailer...
 

 

Another film that I watched was The Campaign with Will Farrell (I’m not a huge fan of his, but I actually found this one quite funny).  I’ll review it tomorrow. 

Right lovelies, until tomorrow enjoy the rest of your Sunday and be fabulous.

Lots of love

Jx

 

More Dodgy On-line Dating Emails

 

 

 

I was telling my dad about the odd reactions I've recently received by some men regarding my dating posts, when it occurred to me why the reactions between men and women are so different (obviously not all men though, just a select few!) ...  There is a fundamental difference between men and women in that women like to talk things over, tell their friends what’s going on, chew it over and get each other's views, whereas men generally want to ‘solve’ the problem.

Ladies, have you ever got home from work and had a good old moan, got everything off your chest and felt much better only to have your partner want to solve the ‘problem’ for you?  You only wanted to vent and once you have, you feel  much better (you actually just want someone to sit there and listen to your issues and then you can get on with your day). 

Have you ever had that conversation with your partner when you've been venting about your day that goes something like, "I don't want you to solve my problem, that's not the point, I just want you to listen to me!" and your partner is completely dumbfounded and sits there in almost abject shock?  (Or is that just me? Hmmmmmm)  It’s evolutionary hard wiring.  Men can’t help it ... it’s in their genes.  They have an inbuilt need to fix things and look for solutions. 

I feel much better now after realising that ... so let’s move on...

Here’s another load of emails I’ve received (again, I’ve copied and pasted exactly as I’ve received them - my comments are in bold italic).  I did copy and paste another 20 or so, but my computer crashed and I didn’t get to save them.  Still, there’s a steady stream of them, so I don’t need to worry too much.  Here goes...

love to see you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx (Love to see me what? Do the Hyland Fling? Dance the Charleston? Drink him under the table?  What?  DELETE/NEXT!)

You look lovely by the way x (By the way of what? Watford? London? Liverpool? What? DELETE/NEXT!)

Beautiful ;) (Now don’t get me wrong, these types of mails are very lovely , but it really doesn’t take much effort now does it? DELETE/NEXT!)

Hi realy like your profile

Hi realy like your profile

Hi realy like your profile (This guy cuts and pastes his typos ... nice ... I feel so special! DELETE x 3/NEXT!)

hiya x

hiya x

hiya x

hiya x (God give me strength – DELETE x 4/NEXT!)

Absolute gorgeous babe xx (Lazy and 5’4” and aged 57 – DELETE/NEXT!)

you're lovely xx (Again, very nice but ... hmmmmmmph – DELETE/NEXT!)

Could you be my day (What? DELETE/NEXT!)

Would like to chat (Would you now? Not with me you wouldn't! DELETE/NEXT!)

good evening, how are you?

good evening, how are you?

good evening, how are you?

good evening, how are you?

good evening, how are you? (DELETE x5/NEXT!)

You ask for someone thats fit and wants to travel, well im moving to australia and you didnt reply (Oooosh, how scary is that! He was obviously upset that I didn't respond to his first mail.  His picture is of a decidedly middle aged man with his top off, trying to flex his muscles and glaring at the camera ... oh and he's another 5'4" - DELETE/NEXT!)

And my two personal favourites:

hello nice too meet you i like you verey nice lady what you name huny x (What? I imagine saying that in a Zsa Zsa Gabour type accent - DELETE/NEXT!)

Your pictures had me dripping like an egg sandwich (Ewwwwwww that's just wrong - a bit funny though ... until I looked at his picture *shudder* - DELETE/NEXT!)

In an attempt to try and limit these types of emails, I’ve actually put a message on my profile saying that I won’t respond to mails that contain text speak or one line generic emails (although I don’t hold out much hope for most of them even knowing what ‘generic’ means!).

Oh and as I’m writing this post, I got this one ...

“Nice profile, you have some good interests but you need to wear more sunscreen when you’re in the Caribbean.”

Bloody cheek - I'm actually pretty angry at this and but have deleted it before I feel the urge to give an unsavoury reply – which would probably consist of two words and probably get me banned from the site!  What would possess someone to send something like that?  Do they think they’re being funny? Are they expecting you to fall head over heels with them?  Or are they just a**holes looking for a cheap kick?  Why actually take time out of your day to write an email to someone you don’t know and be mean to them?  Don’t get it. 

Then there’s the guy that I’ve been having a mini email conversation with (I have a new rule that if they don’t ask to speak to me or to actually ask to meet me after the fourth email exchange, I bin them as a bad job ... I don’t need a pen pal and generally it seems they're time wasters after this point) he just sent me his fourth message and told me his name isn’t Anderson, it’s Steve (he thinks Anderson is more glamorous), he isn’t an IT Consultant he’s a care worker, he doesn’t live in Cheshire, he lives in Liverpool.  Why would you do that? DELETE/NEXT!

Of course I do get some lovely emails and those are the ones that I respond to and ultimately turn into dates.  It’s just that on average you get about 15 bad messages to each good one (unless my criteria are far too high ... maybe I need to lower my expectations ... on second thoughts ... nah).

OK lovelies, that’s it for me today.  I hope you have a wonderful weekend.  Until next time, be fabulous.

Lots of love

Jx

I've Found My Very Own Mr Grey!

 

 

Well I’m happy to say that I’ve calmed down considerably after the wonderful feedback I’ve had from some of you, my lovely friends and readers.  I really appreciate your support ... thank you!

Right, well I told you that I was going out on a date on Tuesday night and I’m not happy to report that I met my Mr Grey!  Definitely NOT the Mr Grey you all have in mind though (more’s the pity!).  This Mr Grey wore grey pants, a grey/red stripped shirt (think, those awful grey work shirts '90s style shirts that women with no dress sense buy for their husbands), grey hair, grey pallor.  Grey ... the colour grey.  Dreary day grey.  Boring, really very uninteresting grey.  Hummmmph.

Really, I should start from the beginning.  This is another guy that contacted me from the new dating site.  We sent a few emails backwards and forwards and agreed to meet.  In his picture he looked quite nice and on the young side for 44 and he had really quite a pleasant face.  We swapped numbers and agreed to meet.  We also had a quick phone call on Monday and he seemed really nice. 

So, we agreed to meet on Tuesday at 7.30 pm at a bar not too far from where I live (he'd agreed to travel to me - tick) and we texted in the afternoon and confirmed the arrangements.  I knew it would take me about 15 minutes to get there and with my obsession about not being late, I left about 7.10 pm.  Just as I got in the car, I got a call from him telling me that he was running about 10 minutes late.  He asked me how far I lived away from the bar and agreed to call me when he was 15 minutes away so I could leave then and we'd arrive at the same time.

Now, there’s a couple of things here, the first is that (if you’re a regular reader you’ll know this already) I detest lateness with a vengeance.  I think it’s the height of bad manners and it riles me like nothing else!  I thought, OK, I have 3 choices here:

1.   Call it off ... I can’t be doing with a man who can’t be on time and if he can’t be on time for the first date, you can pretty much establish that he’s never going to be on time (I apply that rule when I’m interviewing too ... the two processes are actually very similar!)

2.   Get out of the car (but the rain was torrential and I’d just taken half an hour curling my hair!) and go back inside, restlessly waiting for his call (grrrrrrrrr that would be wrong on so many levels)

3.   Just carry on driving and wait for him where we were meeting – I could always sort out some emails while I waited.

So number 3 it was and I got to the venue about 7.20 pm.  At 7.50 pm (Yes, a whole half hour later) he turned up.  OMG, actually, I can’t believe that I waited.  That's not like me at all, but as I’d gone to the trouble of putting ‘night time’ make up on and I'd curled my hair I thought that I might as well get a drink out of it.

I legged it (ran very quickly for my non UK readers) dodging the mahooosive puddles, to the lobby, the rain was absolutely pelting down and I came face to face with this decidedly grey (in every way), middle aged, extremely ‘ordinary’ looking man waiting for me.  (Is that mean?  Don’t care!)  We got drinks and sat down (he bought them – so at least that’s a second tick), it was then I noticed his bad breath even though I was sitting at the other side of the couch.  Ewwwwwwwwww *shudder*. 

He actually mentioned his clothes, he said that he didn't know what to wear!  He didn't know what to wear on a first date in a bar on a Tuesday evening.  What's wrong with jeans and a shirt/jumper?  He was literally wearing his work wear without the tie and jacket (of a very cheap suit!).

For the next hour, he then proceeded to tell me about his 3 ex wives, 4 children; about his career (he is a Used Car Salesman ... why the hell I didn’t find that out before I met him I don’t know – that should have been enough to put me off meeting him in the first place!).  He told me every single thing about his career history including the companies he’s worked for (he literally talked through his CV); what he has to do every day including what he has to eat (I kid you not); about his last performance review and the fact that he's on a written warning for poor conduct with a customer following a mystery shopper audit (I got all the details of that from beginning to end); all about how he used to play professional golf but stopped; everything about his brother; about his flat, about the car he drives etc.

What did he ask about me?  Nadda ... not a bloody thing!  I’ve never been so bored in my life.  He had one of those droning, mono-tone voices too (kill me now!). Luckily, I had an exit strategy planned, I’d already told him that I had to be up really early to travel 200 miles for a 9.00 am meeting (which was actually true), so when we’d finished the wine after about 40 minutes, that was my cue to leave.  Phew! ... I was home, make up off and in my PJs by 9.10 pm.

He texted me that night saying how wonderful the night was and how he was looking forward to seeing me again.  I didn’t reply, I thought it was nicer to send him a mail in the morning rather than sending him a text saying ‘Thanks but no thanks’.  He also sent me a really nice text in the morning saying, “Drive carefully, look forward to talking to you soon x”.  Ah bless.   I didn’t reply but sent him a nice “thanks but no thanks” email that afternoon.

So another one bites the dust.  But fear not my lovelies ... there are others in the pipeline and I’ll keep you informed!  Tomorrow I’ll give you an update of some more of the emails that I’ve been receiving ... you can’t make it up!  Until then, be fabulous!

Lots of love

Jx